Educating Children is a Partnership

10 Mar

If I had a dollar for every time a district administrator or a high school principal said educating a child was a partnership between the teacher, the child and the parent, I’d have a few thousand dollars.

The problem is that the average American parent is not part of that partnership.

How can that average parent be a partner working together with the teachers if the parent talks to his child less than five minutes a day? That’s what surveys and studies show us.

In fact, the average child of the average parent plays an average of 10 hours a day watching TV, playing video games, social networking on sites such as Facebook or sending out hundreds of text messages a day.

Jean M. Twenge, Ph. D., writes in Psychology Today that Narcissism is on the rise among individuals and in American culture, and says, “Our American obsession with self-esteem has not made us any more successful, and has probably made us less successful. Believing in yourself is not enough; you have to work hard. In trying to make our children happy in the short term, we may undermine the skills they need in the long term. Telling children how great they are does no good if they don’t actually develop skills.”

We need to change that average so a decade from now we read that the average parent doesn’t mention self-esteem anymore and talks to his or her child more than thirty minutes a day while the fun and games of an average American child doesn’t happen until after homework, studying and reading a book.

Dr. Twenge was right when she said, “You have to work hard.” Now, we have to get the average American parent to pay attention.

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Lloyd Lofthouse is a former U.S. Marine and Vietnam Veteran.

His latest novel is the award winning Running with the Enemy. Blamed for a crime he did not commit while serving in Vietnam, his country considers him a traitor. Ethan Card is a loyal U.S. Marine desperate to prove his innocence or he will never go home again.

And the woman he loves and wants to save was trained to kill Americans.

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2 responses to “Educating Children is a Partnership

  1. Jeff Silvey

    March 10, 2011 at 16:07

    Agreed. Positive messages are great, but enough with the “everybody gets a medal” culture. Hard work IS the answer, and constructive feedback is not always glowing while one is on their journey (especially in the beginning). Kids need more honesty and realism today.

    • Lloyd Lofthouse

      March 10, 2011 at 16:59

      Thank you. We need to get this message out and be loud about it.


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