In addition, the way the average American parent raises his or her children today, and how the public schools operate and the character of the average American child are all affected by this continuing revolution.

Several significant changes track this Cultural Revolution and metamorphosis—some good and some bad. After all, America’s leaders and citizens are only human. To understand this ignored revolution, one should know a few facts about US history first.

Good changes are in bold print showing improvement.

If the print is gray, the change is questionable.

If in italics, it means BAD things happened!

1. In 1800, about 6% of the US population lived in cities and more 94 % lived on farms and/or small rural communities. By 1990, almost 70% of the rural population had migrated to cities.  This change took place due to the US Industrial Revolution (1820 – 1870), and America needed more educated citizens.

2. In 1850, life expectancy by age in America at birth was 38.3 years. By 1900, life expectancy at birth reached 48.23. In 1990, it was 72.7, and by 2012 (according to the CIA Factbook, life expectancy for all races and both sexes had reached 78.49 (ranked #50 globally).

3. Although critics of public education harp on the so-called low high-school graduation rates in the US, in 2007 the national graduation rate was almost 70%. However, to put this into perspective, in 1870, the high school graduation rate was less than 5% and by the turn of the century in 1900, thirty years later, only 7%. Forty-five years after that at the end of World War II, the rate was up to 55%. It wouldn’t be until 1970 that we would see the highest graduation rate at 76%.  After that, it leveled off and hasn’t changed much and fluctuates a few percentage points up or down.

4. The Chinese Exclusion Act was signed into law on May 6, 1882. This act was one of the most significant restrictions on immigration in U.S. history and focused on all Asians.  The act also affected Asians that had already settled in the US before it became law.  This Act would not be repealed until December 17, 1943—sixty-one years later.

5. The 19th Amendment was ratified on August 26, 1920 establishing a woman’s right to vote. This movement started in 1848 and took 72 years to achieve.

6. For more than one-hundred-and-sixty-two years, Children in the United States could be sold by their parents into servitude to work in coal mines and factories up until the Fair Labor Standards Act in 1938, which set federal standards for child labor.

7. During World War II, 120,000 Japanese-Americans lost their homes and businesses when they were rounded up and sent to dozens of prison camps where they languished until the war ended (February 1942 – 1944; the last prison camp closed in 1945.)  This act was challenged in the courts but the Supreme Court ruled in favor of the U.S. Government.

8. In 1948, President Truman signed Executive Order 9981 ending segregation in the US armed services: “”It is hereby declared to be the policy of the President that there shall be equality of treatment and opportunity for all persons in the armed services without regard to race, color, religion, or national origin.”

9. From roughly 1950 – 1954, McCarthyism was the practice of making accusations of disloyalty, subversion or treason without proper regard for evidence. During the McCarthy era, thousands of Americans were accused of being Communists or communist sympathizers and became the subject of aggressive investigations and questioning before government or private-industry panels, committees and agencies. This movement was so popular that 50% of the American public supported McCarthy’s vigilante witch hunts.

10. On July 2, 1964, President Johnson sings the Civil Rights Act of 1964.  It was the most sweeping civil rights legislation since Reconstruction prohibiting discrimination of all kinds based on race, color, religion, or national origin.

11. The Spread of American Imperialism: the war with Mexico (1846-48) where the US seized New Mexico and California; the US Indian Wars (1865-1891), which cost the lives of about 19,000 white men, women and children, including those killed in individual combats, and the lives of about 30,000 Indians; in the Spanish-American War (1898) the US gained Guam, the Philippines and Puerto Rico; Philippine-American War (1899-1902); Banana Wars (1898-1935); Moro Rebellion in the southern Philippines (1899-1913); Vietnam War (1955-1975), and the Iraq War (note: this is not a complete list). In addition. to maintain this empire, according to the US Department of Defense, the US military maintains 662 foreign sites in 38 countries around the world. Other sources claim that number is more than 1,000.

Now, just as America need smarter people, the average US citizen is going in the other direction from dumb to dumber, and this change is a continuation of the American Cultural Revolution that has been taking place since 1861.

However, this revolutionary change has to do with how the average parent raises his or her children, and it had its roots with John Dewey in 1886. It would take 82 years for this negative element of America’s Cultural Revolution to reach critical mass when by the late 1960s self-esteem was a fashionable and influential idea and that movement, which spread to the schools by the 1980s  led to grade inflation, an end to rote learning in addition to dummying down the curriculum.

Continued on June 5, 2012 in The Good and Bad of America’s Continuing Cultural Revolution – Part 2

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The Mysterious Age of Consent

Kevin Noble Maillard is a professor of law at Syracuse University and the co-editor of “Loving v. Virginia in a Post-Racial World: Rethinking Race, Sex and Marriage.” He is on Twitter.

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The age of consent is a strange way to measure adulthood. Setting a definite minimum age for teenagers to engage in sexual activity is like a hopeless game of Battleship: sometimes the target is found, but many other times, it’s just a shot into space.

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Good topic. In my opinion, the age of consent should be linked to physical maturity and not an artificial age of consent age such as 16 or 18 (in one state it is actually 14). Physical maturity means the ability to conceive a child. When a child turns into a physically mature adult, she could elect to go on birth control to avoid getting pregnant if the family decided it would be a bad idea to start having children at such a young age. When Mother Nature releases the hormones that turn individuals into physical adults, the sex drive is usually a stronger force than any written laws that create an artificial age of consent (no matter the punishment), which ignores the influence of God, DNA, genetics, hormones and/or Mother Nature (depending on what one believes). If God had wanted children to stay children until the age of 14, 16, or 18 (depending on the state), He would have made sure those children's physical maturity obeyed the artificial laws written by men that ignore the reality He created. Hmm, imagine a 16 year old living in a state where 16 was the age of consent and then moving to California where it is 18. God would have to flip off the hormones and revert that young adult back into a child to obey man's artificial laws. However, since society frowns on relationships between teens and someone decades older (evidently God and Mother Nature do not frown on it since physical maturity can arrive at anytime between 12 and 16 — on average — when I was teaching I knew of a young girl that was age 9 that got pregnant so there are exceptions to the average), then possibly the law could define what is legal between individuals by the number of years in age. For example: If it were legal for a 13 year old that was sexually mature to have sexual partners, then the law might stipulate that anyone more than five years his or her age would be breaking the law (this is a suggestion. It could be two years or three years, etc), which means a nineteen year old would go to jail if he or she had consensual sex with a physically mature 13 year old but anyone 18 or younger would not. When that 13 year old turned 14, the five year gap for consensual physical relationships would move up a notch, etc. At 17, that means he or she would be able to have a legal relationship with someone that is 22 but not 23. In addition, if a fourteen year old was still not physically mature and incapable of conceiving a child, then sex with anyone of any age would be considered illegal, which means if there were twins and one twin became physically mature at 14 and the other one didn't until 16, then the 14 year old could date but the other twin couldn't. The only reason I suggest this is because so many in America do not approve of young adults having mature relationships with much older individuals. Since 18 is the age when young people may join the military without parental consent and go to war and die for his or her country, which I did soon after graduating from high school (but I didn't die), then at 18, the age of consent laws should cease to exist and if an 18 year old wants to have a consensual relationship with someone that is 70 or 80 or 90, that is their business. However, to be honest, my wife and I would hate it if our 20-year-old daughter decided to date someone that old, but it is her life—I'm sure we would express our opinions though. The laws the way that are written today create a conundrum. When I was still teaching, I knew of one young man that broke up with his girlfriend when he turned 18, and she was still 16. They were together for three years and were great together. It was obvious they loved each other. However, even though this couple had been sexually active and had a strong bond, after his 18th birthday, he feared that he might end up in jail for twenty or more years, so he broke up with her (it was emotional for weeks because they were both in one of my classes), and they were only two years apart. Eventually, they asked me to see if it was possible for one of them to be transferred into one of my other classes so they would not be together. Stupid laws!

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When I was a little kid in school back in the middle 40s, I can remember being rewarded for doing good work. I loved it when the teacher stuck a gold star on my paper or workbook, and it made me want to do even better.

I also remember that we had reading groups, and they were divided according to ability.

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IN THE 19th and EARLY 20th CENTURY, ROBERT HART WAS CRUCIAL TO THE SURVIVAL OF CHINA!

WALNUT CREEK, CA (3/2/12) — Robert Hart (1835 – 1911) was the ‘Godfather of China’s modernism’ and the only foreigner the emperor of China trusted. In fact, Hart played a crucial role in ending the bloodiest rebellion in history, and he owed this success largely to his live in dictionary and encyclopedia, his Chinese concubine Ayaou. In Dragon Lady, Sterling Seagrave wrote that Ayaou “was wise beyond her years”. In Entering China’s Service, Harvard scholars wrote, “Hart’s years of liaison with Ayaou gave him his fill of romance, including both its satisfaction and its limitations.”

With sales in the thousands, award-winning author Lloyd Lofthouse brings My Splendid Concubine (2007) and the sequel, Our Hart, Elegy for a Concubine (2010) together in The Concubine Saga (2012).

My Splendid Concubine was the love story Sir Robert Hart did not want the world to discover.

In the sequel, Our Hart, Elegy for a Concubine, he was the only foreigner the Emperor of China trusted.

Soon after arriving in China in 1854, Robert Hart falls in love with Ayaou, but his feelings for her sister go against the teachings of his Christian upbringing and almost break him emotionally. To survive he must learn how to live and think like the Chinese and soon finds himself thrust into the Opium Wars and the Taiping Rebellion, the bloodiest rebellion in human history, where he makes enemies of men such as the American soldier of fortune known as the Devil Soldier.

My Splendid Concubine earned honorable mentions in general fiction at the 2008 London Book Festival, and in 2009 at the Hollywood Book Festival and San Francisco Book Festival.

Our Hart, Elegy for a Concubine earned honorable mentions in general fiction at the Los Angeles Book Festival, Nashville Book Festival, London Book Festival, DIY Book Festival and was a Finalist of the National Best Books 2010 Awards.

In addition, The Concubine Saga picked up an Honorable Mention in Fiction at the 2012 San Francisco Book Festival.

Lloyd Lofthouse served in the Vietnam War as a U.S. Marine and lives near San Francisco with his wife and family with a second home in Shanghai, China. As a former Marine, Lloyd earned a BA in Journalism and an MFA in writing. His Blog, iLook China.net, currently averages 600 views a day with more than 200,000 since its launch in January 2010. My Splendid Concubine.com, his Website, has had 72,000 visitors since December 2007. At Authors Den, his work has been viewed 336,000 times.

Virtual Author Book Tours.com arranged the June 2012 book tour of 27 book Blogs.

In addition, in 2008, following the launch of My Splendid Concubine, Lofthouse appeared as a China expert on more than 30 talk-radio shows from The Dr. Pat Show on KKNW 1150 AM in Seattle to The Smith and Riley Show on WFLF 540 AM in Orlando Florida.

The Concubine Saga
ISBN: 978-0-9819553-8-4

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Phillip Phillips won season 11, but he was not the most talented singer. In fact, “When asked if he thought he would prevail after Tuesday night’s top two competition show, an incredulous Phillip gave powerhouse runner-up Jessica Sanchez—who some fans might argue was ‘robbed’—total props, answering: ‘No! Did you see Jessica’s last performance?’ Phillips also cited a standout performance by another powerhouse, Joshua Ledet’s ‘It’s A Man’s, Man’s, Man’s World,’ as one of his favorites of the entire season.”

Jessica is no “bot” as she sings with Jennifer Holliday

To explain the Worsters’ success, Ruchard Rushfield, the author of ‘American Idol: The Untold Story’ says, “But Idol voters aren’t thinking like record producers, according to Rushfield. “You have this alliance between young girls and grandmas and they see it, not necessarily as a contest to create a pop star competing on the contemporary radio, but as…who’s the nicest guy in a popularity contest,” he says, “And that has led to this dynasty of four, and possibly now five, consecutive, affable, very nice, good-looking white boys.” Source: ABC News

Therefore, viewers that stop watching American Idol because white boys with guitars win supported by the alleged racist Worster Internet Trolls may hurt undiscovered talent. In fact, without American Idol, even Phillip Phillips would not have had a chance to compete and win.

Phillip Phillips singing with John Fogerty – Bad Moon Rising

Although finalists such as Jessica Sanchez, Joshua Ledet and Elise Testone (for example) did not win, these talented individuals may not be losers.  A few, as other finalist losers have done, will sign contracts and record singles and/or albums and if they have an audience of fans that love their work, they will succeed.  In fact, some finalists have been more successful than winners.

If we compare the winners of the previous four seasons that the Worsters claim to have helped win, we learn who the real winners are.

When we add up the sales numbers of the winners from seasons seven through ten, the sales of albums add up to less than three million in combined sales while one white boy with a guitar, Lee DeWyze of Season 9, sold less than 150,000 albums.

However, David Archuleta (season 7) and Adam Lambert (season 8) both finalists that lost did sign contracts and went on to sell more than a million copies each. In fact, the combined sales of finalists that did not win on American Idol, but signed contracts anyway, total more than 18 million albums. If American Idol had not existed, this would not have happened.

Phillip Phillips singing with John Fogerty – Have You Ever Seen

Therefore, every time a fan of American Idol stops watching the show because a less talented white boy with a guitar wins, those viewers are only helping alleged racist Internet Trolls known as the Worsters to ruin it for everyone even those white boys with guitars.

To discover the real winners that compete on American Idol, we have to wait and see how many albums these artists that landed in the loser’s circle sell to their fans.

I suspect that these Worsters are examples of young adults that as children were raised by parents that pushed a sense of false self-esteem, and these adult children cannot stand competitions where talent and merit count more than just dreams and mediocrity. Instead, the Worsters are bitter and hate the real world where merit is the only way one really succeeds in life.

Worsters were raised to believe that all one had to do was dream of fame and it would arrive without effort until, as adults, reality taught them the truth and now they are jealous and want to ruin it for artists that are willing to work hard and risk failure to have a chance at success.

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Without these national talent programs, the road to gain recognition is a difficult one, and many talented artists may never be in the right place at the right time to have a shot at the success they dream of.

In fact, it is obvious that the odds of becoming a success in the music industry are about as high as winning a state lottery, which is about 20 million to one. For American Idol contestants, the odds may be better since the program only hold auditions in about six cities, and the number that audition can exceed 10,000 people in each city. Between 1 to 60 people in each city may make it to the Hollywood audition where the top twelve finalists are selected.

Great performance but not the best original song for Jessica.

The sad news is that eventually, American Idol may be cancelled as so many TV shows are when the number of viewers drops too low. In a May 24, 2012 New York Times piece, it was alleged that American Idol’s number of viewers is dropping drastically due to audience fatigue, but I suspect that the drop in viewers may be mostly due to the five white guys playing guitars that won the last five seasons of American Idol.

For example, 29.3 million viewers watched the finale for season 10 but only 21.5 million watched the 2012 finale. American Idol once held the record for most consecutive seasons (ten years) as number one. The largest viewing audience was 37.44 million season 6. Since then, the audience has been shrinking.  Between season six and eleven there was a drop of about 57% in viewers.

The real culprit of this decline may be Vote for the Worst.com, which claimed this morning that they had succeeded. “We did it, Worsters! 132 million votes were cast last night, and in the end, we helped the fifth straight white guy with a guitar win American Idol… we succeeded yet again and helped make sure Pinoybot Jessica Sanchez was left in the loser’s circle.”

Jessica singing “I Will Always Love You:

Vote for the Worst.com launched in 2004 with the goal to support contestants on American Idol that the producers would hate to see win (according to the Worsters), and the Alexa stats show that the Worsters’ site has a very high search engine rank of 57,917 (which translates into the top .01% ) internationally and 18,539 in the United States with 693 sites linked in. Based on internet averages, Alexa says this site is visited frequently by females who are college educated in the age range 25-34 with no children.

The goal of any serious Website/Blog is to have a search engine rank in the top one percent. The Worsters have more than achieved that.

The Worsters are wrong about Jessica being a Pinoy, which is a term coined by expatriate Filipino Americans in the 1920s to refer to their immigrant ethnicity.  Jessica was born in the United States and her father is an American citizen of Mexican descent that honorably served in the US Navy as did Jessica’s Filipino grandfather. Jessica’s father and grandfather defended the United States and fought for it as I did in 1966 when I was a US Marine serving in Vietnam and less than one percent of Americans serve in the US military to fight its wars as patriots.

Great Song!  Best I’ve heard Phillip Phillips sing!

At best, Jessica is a Pinoy-Latino American.  Tacking on the term “bot” to “Pinoy” making it “Pinoybot” alleging that she is a Filipino robot or an internal parasite of animals and that is an insult and a racial slur revealing the real character of the individuals behind the “Worsters” movement that supports mediocrity. It is obvious that the “Worsters” are alleged racist Internet Trolls.

However, how long Jessica Sanchez will be left in that so-called American Idol loser’s circle as a “Pinoybot” may not last long as we shall discover in Part 2, and most of those white boys with guitars that the Worster’s claim they helped win may be the real losers as the facts suggest. In addition, Vote for the Worst.com runs ads, which means they are monetized and using their negative spin to attract a gullible audience to turn a profit.

Continued on May 26, 2012 in The Damage a sense of False Self-Esteem May Cause – Part 2

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Why? Well it started in Guatemala last week. I was eating in the weightlifting chow hall with Donny Shankle and thinking about the food. The meal that day included a sort of salad. Tasted like it had some kale in it, had some green beans, some corn, lettuce, and bits of bacon. There were diced up potatoes, cooked with onions. Diced up carrots that most people seemed to be mixing up with the potatoes and onions.

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Ah, I'm not alone in what I think about the average American diet. However, the reason people eat like this is because of profits and jobs, and the government will do nothing about it because that might cause jobs to be lost and no morally corrupt politician would want that because then he or she might get tossed out of office in the next election and miss out on all those gifts and perks from corporate lobbyists. _______________________________________ It's all about the money and a lot of people that live to eat instead of eat to live. _______________________________________ This also has a lot to do with the quality of public education in the US where teachers cannot teach kids that do not feed their brains the proper nutrition needed to make that brain work. In fact, sugar really messes up short term memory and causes energy spikes along with mood swings. _______________________________________ For example, when I was still teaching (1975 - 2005), each year, I asked my students, "How many of you eat breakfast?" The answer was usually two or three raised hands out of a class of 34/36 students (on average). _______________________________________ A nutritious breakfast is the most important meal of the day—especially for children who are still growing and that growth includes the brain. The brain does not stop developing until they are about age 25. _______________________________________ Then I asked, "What do you eat when you eat?" The most common answer was a bag of greasy French fries, a slice of cheese pizza and a soda (often Coke or Pepsi) and that soda or sodas was usually the first thing most of the students consumed because it was the easiest form of food or drink available since there were vending machines in the schools halls. _______________________________________ Since I arrived at school early, soon after the gates were unlocked at 6 AM, I had the opportunity to ask the man stocking the soda vending machines how many cases of sodas did he deliver to the high school each week. His answer, "About 2,000 cases," which translated to about 3 sodas a day per student since the school had about 3,000 students at the time._______________________________________ What was the motive for the school district to have those soda machines in the halls? The Coke Distributer paid the district 50% of the gross take. Each bottle cost $1.00. _______________________________________ In addition, scientific research has proven that drinking one can of soda will suppress the immune system up to 50% for several hours besides messing with brain cells from the overdose of sugar. And we blame teachers when kids don't learn!

However,  Lehrer writes, “Keith Sawyer, a psychologist at Washington University, has summarized the science: ‘Decades of research have consistently shown that brainstorming groups think of far fewer ideas than the same number of people who work alone and later pool their ideas.’”

In fact, in Does Brainstorming For New Ideas Really Work? (Business Insider, March 27, 2012), it was reported that experiments where it is okay to debate and criticize (constructive criticism no doubt) generated nearly 25 percent more ideas and findings show that debate and criticism do not inhibit ideas but, rather, stimulate them…

These results prove that the self-esteem’s brainstorming mantra of refraining from judging or negating ideas is wrong. In other words, brainstorming (a product of the self-esteem movement) did not unleash the potential of the group. Instead the technique suppressed it, making each individual less creative.

In addition, Stephanie Hallett writing for the Huffington Post reported, “Barely half of Americans over the age 18 are married, according to a new report from the Pew Research Institute. The number of couples married in 2010 dropped a startling 5 percent from the previous year, and the overall number of married couples has declined by more than 20 percentage points since 1960.”

Now, let’s look at the face in that mirror again. The self-esteem movement among parents gained serious momentum in the 1960s and by the late 1970s, it was a force in the public schools leading to grade inflation and a feel-good atmosphere for students. At the same time, marriages declined in addition to an increase in a weakening of parent-child relationships, while creativity in America isn’t what it could be.

In conclusion, it is obvious that self-esteem parenting led to the weakening of the parent-child relationship, is responsible in the decline of traditional marriage and has inhibited creativity, which will hurt the United States in the long run.

Is this an example of the domino theory in practice?

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The articles I will refer to in this post will help explain the point I want to make. The first piece I’ll mention was posted on PJ Media and although I disagree with many of the posts I’ve read on this Blog, since it is obvious the site is biased toward conservatism and the GOP, for once I agree with PJ Media’s Daily Digest in The Unteachables: A Generation that Cannot Learn.

PJ says, “The unteachable student has been told all her life that she is excellent: gifted, creative, insightful, thoughtful, able to succeed at whatever she tries, full of potential and innate ability.”

It all started with the self-esteem parenting movement, which I have ranted about before in previous posts. PJ says and I agree: “Rather than forming cheerful, self-directed learners, the pedagogy of self-esteem has often created disaffected, passive pupils, bored precisely because they were never forced to learn… The emphasis on feeling good… prevents rather than encourages the real satisfactions of learning.”

I recommend clicking on PJ’s link above and read the entire post.

In addition, I believe that the decline in traditional marriage and the traditional family that is often the foundation and strength of a nation is also the result of the self-esteem movement, which leads me to the next article I’m going to refer to.

In The Stranger in Your Family, AARP Magazine (April/May 2012 issue), Meredith Maran reports on the rise in parent-child estrangements. In Maran’s piece, San Francisco psychologist Joshua Coleman, PhD. blames what’s behind such family fractures on a me-first mentality that he says is weakening parent-child relationships.

When Coleman launched a six-session seminar on intergenerational conflict, he expected that about 50 parents might sign up. Instead, he got 400.  He says, “Little binds adult children to their parents these days, beyond whether the relationship feels good to them.”

Remember, “feeling good” is the foundation of the self-esteem parenting movement, which leads me to the next article. Jonah Lehrer writing Group Think, The brainstorming myth for The New Yorker (January 30, 2012) reports, “The thing that distinguishes brainstorming from other types of group activity—was the absence of criticism and negative feedback. If people were worried that their ideas might be ridiculed by the group, the process would fail.”

Continued on May 22, 2012 in The results of parenting gone wrong – Part 2

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I guess I could say this is my favorite poem since it is the one that I think of the most and what it teaches us.

 When you get what you want in your struggle for self And the world makes you king for a day, Just go to a mirror and look at yourself And see what that face has to say…

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